From the desk of Mrs. Baby Abraham
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THE
PSYCHOLOGICAL IMPACT OF RITUALS IN
CHILDREN AND ADULTS
The character of your models, idols, heroes and heroines has tremendous impact on
us. The memory of good as well as horrible experiences we undergo leave lasting impressions on our minds whether we
are children or adults. Can money erase it . Can a present of computer or
Laptop erase it . Till your last breath the pain, the sarcasm , the tears, the agony, the aching throb of your
heart will not leave you. Same way the congratulations , awards ( even that
some people detest and make fun of us ,
ut when they themselves get it , it is commendable and acceptable ! ) trophies and accolades . Our worship practices , whether in churches,
temples, mosques or gurudwaras , do they
comfort us so that we look forward to
going there again for more of “ such blessing experiences “ . When we remember
those experiences , do our heart swell with thankfulness or do we scream at the
very remembrance of it and shudder at the very glimpse of “ those performers “.
Spirituality is not for
painful experiences. All the saints and
sages have peace in true spirituality.
How did Swami Vivekananda practiced spirituality
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Nationally and internationally Swami
Vivekananda is held in high respect.
But when he came to Kerala, he said it a
house of mad people . Are we trying to prove it ???? At
one time Kerala was God’s own
country. Where is it heading to now ? How can God’s own country become devil’s own country.
Mahabali is no more acceptable
here. Vamanan is reigning . But does Vamanan still use vulgarity and virtueless
mode of behavior he did on Mahabali . Kindness and generosity and upholding noble values are replaced by crying, screaming , weeping
and agony. Where can we find the smile and laughter of our beloved children.
They are the witnesses and the sufferers of this worshipping
practices to please these so called gods
who take pleasure in the pain and crying of innocent children and others . Will they ever have a grateful heart towards
this evil god .
If only we understand the very true meaning
of godliness, we would have recognized that God has godliness . That
recognition solves all problems and misunderstanding . God is the EPITOME of
godliness. There is no higher godliness
and goodness anywhere in the world than what God represent. . How can we misrepresent goodness and
godliness as evil . . That is the greatest atrocity . Will God forgive you since we do not speak
what is true about God ? If we say poojaries are not good, will the poojaries
accept it , how much more will God detest the evil performance
they do as if told by God. How their tender hearts are torn forever. Will they
ever forget this one week of rituals. For pongal even the cows and bullocks are
decorated and fed well. Look what we are giving to our own children. All our
noble behavior is for outsiders !!! If only all men and women and children give
little noble behavior to family members also... it would have made our families
heaven. That is the only way to bring heaven on earth. It is in our own hands.
We make our own home heaven or hell , happy and contented or sad and weeping . Sometimes we make other people’s home hell for them when murder, rape, beating
or pelting stones take place. How sad . Can we prevent it forever. In heaven
there is no cry . Therefore if any one cry for atrocities any where, we can
never achieve the complete harmony. It is a real herculean task. But if we,
each one do our own little part, in our own house, in our own school, in our
own office, factory, hospital, worshipping places, we create a small
heaven of our own. When all make their
own little heaven, the whole nation is transformed into one contented
harmonious place called heaven where
righteousness and justice dwell together.
Are we becoming sophisticated or barbarians . When the foreigners read about our Yoga
centers and ritual torture ( worship )
they are forced to rewrite their high opinion about our God’s own country.
In other parts of the world , wherever these sort of practices were
prevalent, they gave up all that and
became so loving and tender hearted, caring one
another, taking care of children as their precious possession. Will any
one do this sort of acts to their car, motor bike, house, school building, hospital building etc . When
people do this sort of atrocity to buses,. Cars, public property, we condemn
them. Are our children of less value than our bike or car or pen or books or
dress or slippers.
This bring our attention to the
value of healthy family life , spiritual life, moral life. Our spiritual
leaders should be held responsible for these practices. This is the beginning
of bringing back “ so many other
traditions “ which we had eradicated
when we and our true political and
religious leaders were aware of the wickedness in them. Are they still thirsting for such
practices… What will Raja Ram Mohan Roy,
Gandhiji , Nehru, Swami Vivekananda,
Pundit Rama Bai, Tagore etc
comment or commend !!! on these practices. If only our spirit and soul respond to
divinity, and spirituality as Swami Vivekanda advocated , all outward
expression would have become in proper alliance with all relationships,
religious and spiritual and above all social . It
will be reflected in every family.
On one side we are progressing in
artificial intelligence, digitalization,
space technology and on the other side we restart the most painful religious practices .
Are we and our children so bad that we need these sort of thing to correct ourselves.
Can we determine in our own mind to do
the righteous things and follow that. If we ask Swami Vivekananda, his opinion
about these religious practices or Dalai Lama , his opinion, what will be their
answers ?
Whenever we have any doubt in anything, not
only religious, but medical, or agriculture or education, just pause for a
minute and in your mind envision someone, a saint, sage or most proficient
personality in that particular subject or Adi Sankara, and ask them that question.
Wait for the answer. You will find your
answer. The answer is at hand. Ask and you will get it. If you have trust in
them and not try to fool them. Just have that hopeful expectation in the most
trusted way for your problems, life’s problems. You will find it. That does not
mean that the children should not study but simply ask or that the workers
should not do the work properly and simply ask. The fundamental good qualities
are embedded in your mind from childhood. Our parents have sowed them in your
mind. They are lying dormant there and
when we ponder over it , suddenly it comes
in a burst to help us, guide us and lead us in the correct path.
May our people be truly enlightened to know
what is right and what is wrong.
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